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She was talking about how she discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her after she found a dick pic on his phone. To hear Elizabeth tell it, her boyfriend had never expressed interest in men before, so she couldn't believe he might be interested in having sex with them. She needed answers but wasn't sure where to begin, so she pulled out her smartphone and downloaded Grindr for reconnaissance. At first, Elizabeth pretended to be a man on her profile, asking around to see if any of the men in her area were sleeping with her boyfriend. But even though she didn't find out whether her boyfriend was cheating on her on Grindr, something surprising happened after she ultimately broke up with him: "I actually started making connections.
Over time, Elizabeth started regularly hanging out with a few of the men she met on Grindr. But after I explained [my situation] to the few who would listen, they were all really accepting of me," she told Mic. While it might seem strange for a heterosexual woman to use one of the largest gay dating apps out there, Elizabeth is not alone. She is one of a of people who have turned to the app for something other than sex: platonic friendship. Grindr touts itself as "the world's leading social app exclusively for gay, bi and curious men.
Elizabeth originally ed up as a jock, then switched to twink when she discovered it was easier to make friends with people who self-identified that way. She told Mic that when she was a jock, there were more expectations for her to exude typical masculine traits. But when she labeled herself as a "twink," she found the conversations she was having with her matches were more open and accepting.
Her profile picture was blank, and her bio read: "looking to connect with genuine guys.
Now, Elizabeth estimates that she's made at least two friends on the app. After graduating college Andrew moved to Seattle to work in finance. He found it difficult to make new friends in the sprawling city. While some guys have been pushy about hooking up with Andrew, he says that most of the men he talks to are accepting of his orientation.
Andrew also said that being on Grindr has given him keen insight into the internalized homophobia within the queer community. Straight guy looking for friends didn't have the deepest voice and fucking hated sports. I guess the taunts bothered me more and more the older I got," he told Mic. So Tom downloaded Grindr and flirted with men he met on the app. Once, he let a guy he met give him oral sex. Yet afterwards, Tom and his partner kept in touch, later becoming close friends.
To this day, Tom said he will sometimes jump on Grindr to make new friends. But he admitted that it's difficult for most gay men on the app to believe that he's only there to find drinking buddies. Ultimately, however, both men praised the Grindr community for allowing them to exist in a space that's typically thought of as reserved for gay men.
Andrew also said he occasionally uses the app to talk about sports, music and films with other gay men, even if they don't necessarily meet up. Stuff my other friends wouldn't be interested in," he said. Perhaps unsurprisingly, some gay men are furious that people like Elizabeth, Andrew and Tom are crashing their party. While Grindr might be a venue where gay men can actively discriminate against and fat-shame each other, as Andrew observed while on the app, many would still prefer the gates to be locked from outsiders and feel exposed knowing that heterosexual men and women are in the community.
And as Andrew's comments about wanting to meet "cool gay guys" to talk about movies and sports demonstrates, there's definitely a strong element of tokenization at play. Can we not have this one thing?
I go onto Grindr to connect with other gay men, not some random girls looking for a gay best friend," he told Mic. I'm trying to get my dick sucked, not go shopping with you. And I find it so hard to believe straight men actually use the app for Straight guy looking for friends. I'm sure they're trying to get their dick sucked too. This is our safe space. Fuck off to Tinder. In a world that is oversaturated with dating apps, from Bumble to Tinder to Scruffit can be overwhelming to find someone you can form a genuine connection with, whether that be sexual or platonic. Yet even though there are many potential issues with straight people being on Grindr, there are s that they are forging genuine connections on the app.
For Elizabeth, going on Grindr helped her heal a broken heart, while both Andrew and Tom said that being on the app helped them gain insight into unique issues faced by the queer community. If nothing else, the fact that heterosexual people are gravitating toward Grindr demonstrates that the hookup app — indeed, hookup apps in general — has become a much more powerful tool than just an app that tells you where the nearest blowjob is. And while the queer community may be irritated by the fact that straight people are on Grindr, the fact that people like Elizabeth, Andrew and Tom are on there regardless means that the old rules for hookup apps may be on their way out.
By Shawn Binder.Straight guy looking for friends
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Straight People Are Going on Grindr to Make Gay Best Friends